Smoking... ugh!

I hate this itchiness. I love to eat junk but hate the itch it seems to promote. So I am trying to eat higher quality chocolate (though I love it all-- the cheap crap too!). Back during that time I was eating only expensive dark chocolates (which contain no milk, have cocoa butter intead of cheaper fats, and less additives in general) e.g. Sharffen Berger, Dagoba, Green&Blacks I didn't have this scalp problem. Now that partake in Reeces, Hersheys, Laffy Taffy and all assortments of junky "foods" I am itching like a bastard!
I do not want to have prohibitions on what I will eat but I know some foods just don't work for me.

I am so frustrated with my husband. He drinks too much and he smokes. It bothers me because he has such bad gum disease and he is not proactive about taking care of it and the smoking really aggravates it (my dentist told me that smoking is a chief cause of tooth loss). He has had several root planings, etc but he hasn't gone back for his checkup since his last gum surgery which was many months ago. The smoking is hell on his gums yet he won't even consider quitting. I am so baffled by this.

As far as our relationship, he is caring, emotionally assessible, (and does home repair and cooks!!) things I want in a mate. I go up and down on how bad this smoking-gum problem bother me. I am at another peak of it bothering me. I have discussed this stuff with others and gotten the reply that I can't change someone else (which is true and I acknowledge) that I must accept this about him (this I am not ready to do) so what do I do? The good thing is that I always feel that I can talk to him about this...but talk isn't enough. I want change.

I am off work tomorrow (Monday) and have lots of books to read. I am working on focusing effort on addressing my emotional/psychological developments and reading and reflecting on my reading helps me do this. Somehow this seems self-indulgent, there are people with REAL problems that I could maybe help-- e.g. homeless, critically ill, elderly-- I could volunteer but instead I concentrate on my own issues.